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The bloody diamond

The bloody diamond
This is life

Welcome to the imperfect world

Welcome to the super-real world where survival comes first, much before the high alter preachings of excellence (for others only). So if you are the one who does not have to survive, or does not care - you have a choice not to remain here.

For others, please have a seat and take cover - here anything can happen anytime and you may just become a faceless co-lateral damage. Everything here is related to life and death, pains and agonies, treacheries and conspiracies, cons and deceit, treason and betrayals, despair and darkness - we just do not live in any perfect world.

BUT that is why the blog is here at all - let there be light. It aspires to show the way, to train myself and my friends in the defense against the dark arts. It is also related to hope and courage, renunciation and redemption, indomitable will and lust for life - the immortal battle with the dark side. Red flag fluttering in the gentle wind, all hands on deck, war cries in the air, daggers drawn, no quarters given nor asked, no hostages taken - we must fight till the last man standing

Rest assured, you are in good hands. These hands, with all the talents or the lack of them, with all the liveliness and the inner brooding, with the over-sized ego and the extra-ordinary humility, with all the goodness and the devilish designs - have been war veterans - they have fought for decades in the battle of survival.

Happy surviving




Love in blood

Love in blood

The inescapable war within

It is the curse of the human that we are constantly at wars. War with the Government, society, family, spouse, children, Boss, peer, friends, neighbours. Some of these are overt, some crude, some plain enmity but some are subtle, some barely palpable, some low key and guerilla types, some are cold as razors, some are dry like the funeral pyres.

Most of these cannot be own with force or when you try for winning - sometimes you have to lose to win them. Some are more like trials than wars, they never show the faces, never let you see their pimples, just shadows, the kafkaesque faceless executioners take over.

For all these, we need inner strength, we need strategies. Sometimes the objective is survival, sometimes it's plain escape from the random blades, sometimes the heady delight of beheading the enemy. Sometimes it is sheer joy to be alive, sometimes happiness comes over from a walkover or just a walkaway, without even a careless looking back. Often it is a mixed feeling - the agony, the ecstasy, the brutal orgasm or a complete disenchanted detachment - a shelter in the NOW. They sometimes need courage, need cunning finesse, sometimes ruthless lack of values of a son-of-the-bitch, sometimes daring flamboyant recklessness, maybe even stoic nonchalance. But the best of the best generals in the wars of life, always win without unnecessary bloodshed or even none of it at all.

But the most painful and fearful of all these wars are the ones with oneself. It could be a conflict between mind and heart or even the soul that holds our values dear. And this is one war that always hurts, always wounds, always bleeds one dry, always keeps one awake through the fearful night with the shadows of the beautiful lacey curtains blowing in the gentle wind and making shadows of our most intimate fears within. It is like a nation under seize, and alas, there is no escape. When you will kill yourself softly, no survival strategy ever works.



Tuesday, March 29, 2011

MBA_The placement purple

The only worry it seems, for the MBA students nowadays, is placements. While this is even true for the top 20 Institutes of the country, where the season is mostly of fun and joy but still students are bothered about the quality and magnitude of the offers, it is more stark reality for the rest where the question is “will I or won’t I” get a placement at all ?

B-schools are getting lower-quality and more-unscrupulous-business day by day. At the time of Admissions, they show 100% placements and once the eager (read “stupid”) unsuspecting students anxious to be accepted for admission in “M B A !!!” put their heads in the Guillotine, the institutes start playing games to put all kind of conditions to the students for placement eligibility – e.g. At least 75% attendance, at least 60% marks all over their career, active participation in the placement initiatives etc. Even the choice of the specialization (a well known Institute in Kolkata is pushing it’s students to take only Marketing) – you just fail one of these and bang goes the responsibility of the Institute for 30/40% of the students. The question of why the Institute at all accepted the student with less than 60% of marks in all exams, is not relevant – it’s their ground, you have paid the fees and are an orphan now.

The students who finally get any placement interview, go through rounds of selection and quite often a small percentage get the cut. The students are often of intrinsic low quality, with “you have money to pay, come to our MBA” kind of admissions nowadays. While many of them have the intelligence and good potential, the problem is in the attitude and training as they are averse to any idea of self-improvement. World is still rosy and they came to MBA to have fun!! Then, in most of the institute, they are not even suitably trained to take on the serious business of interviews – no proper soft skill training, forget about the life skills. “They cost money and once our revenue is assured, we will cut off all expenses” – say the Institutes. For show, sometimes they keep a soft skill trainer, who definitely needs to be trained first – because those people come cheap and good quality people demand good money. Faculties for the other subjects are nearly the same. Private institutes mostly take the low quality-lowest pay kind of people who will make the numbers for the AICTE regulation (beside showing everybody from the Librarian, Placement executives, Systems admin, accounts people, admin people etc. as faculties to make the mandatory minimum 1:15 ratio) and keeping a few dummy (long retired super-senior citizen- many of them are so old that they don’t and can’t come to teach even) professors of fancy Universities to show as the crocodile babies to the world that these people teach here – AICTE and the University officials will look the other way, many of them are rumored to be on under-the-table payrolls.

The hype that had been created by the media and been kept alive by the Institutes was primarily responsible for the ruckus. Even 15 year ago, there were only a few Institutes and only the very serious students used to aspire for the MBA. Nowadays, seats are much more than the demand and the Institutes are taking anybody who has the money to pay or are so mad that they are ready to sell off whatever they have to pay for the MBA education of their children. The hype is always about the 1-crore plus salaries of the IIM pass-outs. But nobody cares to see that the 1 cr+ is only for the top 1% students and the other real fancy salaries are only reserved for the IIMs and that too their top 5-10%. I know of many people coming out of the IIMs who commands salaries which, by no imagination of the mind, are fancy and are easy targets of these land mafia Institute owners who take them to boast to their students to turn the Institutes into “IIMs”. The biggest spends of the Institutes nowadays are on their admission adverts and a fraction of that are being spent on the faculties. Research ?? what is that ? Consulting !! God save me. The abysmal standards of the faculties ensure any serious faculty being hounded by some of his insecure or devilish colleagues, because he becomes threat to them – once the students get the taste of Biriyani they will be less inclined to accept the stale rice. And the Institute is also prompt to push him out because anybody worth his salt has his confidence and will ask for a good and proper compensation, and not the piece of shit thrown to him by the owner. Who requires quality ? Students will not pay any more!!

Students themselves are also not bothered to learn, they have paid money, so they must be given jobs – simple. And mind it, the job must be of specific type, high pay, low work pressure (they need to be in facebook half the time), no going out in the Sun, no sales, no targets, high prospects and yes, I like the corner cabin, Thank you. Only the aspirations never match the capability or attitude. But please do not try to teach us a lot, do not give us “gyans”, we hate it. We are there, so smart and handsome people, aren’t that enough for these jobs ? Are you blind ?

Companies do not care, they know the levels and play ball. They take the better people among these (in any class, even in IIMs, 5-10% are excellent, 30% are very good, 40% so-so and the rest are unspeakable) at very good rates and down the line they have the option of throwing out the worse ones. In fact, many business schools give money to the companies to take some of their students (the salary or most part of it are paid by the Institute - who cares to pay Rs. 50K when you are charging Rs.5.5 Lacs each student) and telling them that after 6 months you choose which ones you want to keep. This is a win-win situation for the Institute and the Company, so all smiles, click click. The banks do not need money also, they need volumes of people to sell their myriad financial schemes and credit cards, don’t bother about quality because they pay the plain graduates or undergraduates the same rates (and often the commission basis is more than the salary), and the result – in 2-6 months, 80-90% of the people recruited get mad enough to resign and cool their heels in their homes – unemployed or get head on in search of another job. Then they head for another Institute to get their 3-6 monthly meals. The attrition rates for these banks and Insurance companies tell the story.

Students also know these stories, the reputation travels fast, but because of the “day order” policy, they often have to sit for these interviews and once selected, their names are struck off the list, pushing them to the brink. Many of them have low Morales and confidence and try to avoid the possibility of looking for jobs on their own, unless their parents have nice connections. While the obvious downside is there, they often do not understand the long-term advantage of trying. Life is not a one-time affair. Even if you get the job from the campus the first time, all the next ones you have to fight it out in the marketplace. So, it is always better to practice the preparation from the beginning.

But nevertheless, the Institute put those big names in their ads, to say that we have given placements in those. We have no objections, because in any case, most of the names put are bogus and are lies. Even if a Company ever sent a regret letter to the proposal of a Campus interview, that name is included. Institutes usually use the company names who ever came to their campus for the students of any stream, and use that list for all streams, good or bad. Beside, the Institute advertises the 100% placement achieved in it’s Engineering side in the ad for the MBA admissions (In MBA, the figure was less than 40% last year). Fraud ? – that is the name of the game everywhere.

Under these scenarios, many students start searching for the jobs much before the placement starts and many of them succeeds too, again they mostly belong to the upper two categories and they often do not depend on the Institutes and take their required trainings outside. They know they cannot learn everything by themselves. Some more confident ones, even reject the unsuitable offers and go into the market by themselves. Even the research needs some training and perseverance and attitude, and many of them lack one or all of these.

Another issue is the post-joining survival. Nowadays most students are fresh as flowers and simply do not have the idea of the corporate jungle. After joining, they get sucked into the huge vortex of the internal politics and many of them succumb to it without an option and their life’s happiness is gone. It’s a slightly better scenario in very big or MNC organisations (but they take people from the top-level Institutes or take some students for the lower positions from others) but there the people slowly develop a confidence in themselves also that enable them to take on the jungle rules slowly. Some students get indirect training from their family slowly and get more matured than the others to deal with the outside world, the major portion do not.

Pray that the placements come and give the corner rooms.

Friday, March 18, 2011

Strategic Interview Techniques - Command your price


We won’t promise to give you a job; we will just make sure you can command your price for the rest of your life

BodhiTree Academy
announces

3 days workshop on Strategic Interview Techniques


Interview is a mindgame that one finally understands after years of trying, by then losing many dream opportunities. Failing in a dream interview could cost you crores in future income and opportunities. You must play the game at their ground, to their ground rules and still beat them at their own game. To be the Master of your life, Be the Master of the Game. There is a lot to learn, and the best way is to get the insights of the true-blue professionals, celebrated Masters of the Game. You can spend a decade to learn the ropes, or you can come to the Masters and learn them in days.

Do you think you can really answer a simple question like “Tell me about yourself”? Did you know an employer makes 80% of the hiring decision in the first 30-50 seconds?
It could be the 1% X-factor that can make you lose the lifetime opportunities

People miss the golden opportunities because they only hope and do not learn. They make amateurish attempts at the interviews and then hope they will be selected with a fantastic offer. For a fantastic dream to come true, you must be fantastic at the first place – in the game of interview.

To manage an interview successfully, nothing new or magical is to be added to your personality. Only you must pick up the right tools of the game and have the right strategy. Even the interviewers are human and they can be managed and maneuvered. Just learn the techniques, prepare yourself, and turn the so-so interviews into solid offers.

The workshop will help you to float with ease in the shark-infested waters of the common fears associated with the interviews. Learn to harness your fear into excitement, energy, and enthusiasm

Workshop objectives : The workshop will give you the winning confidence that will sail you through. It will teach you
 To make a killer CV that stands out
 To research the organization and align your strategy
 Strategic view of the real industry wants
 Strategies to create the rapport
 To dress and impress in the first 30 seconds
 To leverage your unique capabilities and traits - your skill treasures
 Strategies to sell yourself, with a clear value proposition
 To guide them to your comfort zones rather than be led to your weaknesses
 Strategies to defend with the Q statements
 To use the positive and action words
 Strategic view – from other side of the table
 Strategies for different types of questions and the real questions behind them
 Strategies for image projection as a person and not just as a candidate for filling a position.

MOCK INTERVIEW FOR ALL PARTICIPANTS BY EXPERTS / INDUSTRY HOTSHOTS

Who should attend : The workshop will be immensely valuable and beneficial for
 all students who are going into the job market
 those who have entered the job market in the last two years and will plan for better prospects
 who are trying for higher studies and will have to sit in the selection interviews

Workshop design and delivery : The workshop has been designed and will be conducted by thoroughly experienced professionals and experts in the field – HR specialists, Management professors, hotshot top-brass from world-class companies like TCS/ CTS/ IBM/ DVC/ ICL/Siemens/Idea/L&T etc.

Keynote speaker : Prof. Sudip Bhattacharya, BE, MBA, FIII, ACII(UK), DSS(IIM-C), MSMF
Prof. Bhattacharya is a strategist and trainer with decades of experience in consulting with large entities and MNCs. An accomplished computer engineer and management professional, he holds some of the highest honors for India and UK in Insurance practice area.
Trained in Strategic Management in IIM-C and IIM-L under legends like Prof. Ranjan Das and Prof. Krishna Kumar respectively beside others, he has been teaching Strategy in several top B-schools and is a Life Member of the prestigious Strategic Management Forum of India.
A Lateral thinking trainer and NLP Master, trained by some of the World’s Top Masters, he is also passionate about the people dimension of strategy and is a blogger on Life and Survival Strategies. His first book on Survival Strategies will be published in end-2011 by a famous international publishing house.

Program Director : Dr. Arundhati Ganguly, B.Com, MBA (Symbiosis), PhD
Dr. Ganguly has significant contribution in the world of HR consulting and practices for more than a decade. She presently does consulting and training with several large corporate houses and heads a high-end placement consultancy house.

Workshop Dates : Please contact BodhiTree for the next dates
Workshop Timing : 9.00 AM – 5.30 PM
Workshop Venue : BD-72, Salt lake City, Kolkata – 700064

Investment : Rs. 6,995/- only (per participant) + Tax (includes lunch, refreshment, materials etc.)
Contact BodhiTree for any special / Group discount currently in place

You have to make a decision of a lifetime NOW

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Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Survive from the life's simplest traps

All of us take stupid steps in life, sometimes not even giving a proper thought to the possible consequence. Remember Alice found a little bottle and tied round the neck of it was a paper label with “Drink me” printed on it? But wise little Alice did not do that in a hurry and checked whether it’s marked “poison” or not, because
“she had read several nice little stories about children who had got burnt and eaten up by wild beasts and other unpleasant things, all because they would not remember the simple rules their friends had taught them : such as, that a red-hot poker will burn you if you hold it too long; and that, if you cut your finger very deeply with a knife, it usually bleeds; and she had never forgotten that, if you drink much from a bottle marked ‘poison’, it is almost sure to disagree with you, sooner or later.”

Being a die-hard fan of the “Mad” magazine, I have been waiting with bated breath for the 2010 “Freak” award. It has finally come and I am putting it for my friends verbatim. Enjoy

Eighth Place
In Detroit , a 41-year-old man got stuck and drowned in two feet of water after squeezing head first through an 18-inch-wide sewer grate to retrieve his car keys.

Seventh Place
A 49-year-old San Francisco stockbroker, who "totally zoned when he ran", accidentally jogged off a 100-foot high cliff on his daily run.

Sixth Place
While at the beach, Daniel Jones, 21, dug an 8 foot hole for protection from the wind and had been sitting in a beach chair at the bottom, when it collapsed, burying him beneath 5 feet of sand. People on the beach used their hands and shovels trying to get him out but could not reach him. It took rescue workers using heavy equipment almost an hour to free him. Jones was pronounced dead at a hospital.

Fifth Place
Santiago Alvarado, 24, was killed as he fell through the ceiling of a bicycle shop he was burglarizing. Death was caused when the long flashlight he had placed in his mouth to keep his hands free rammed into the base of his skull as he hit the floor.

Fourth Place
Sylvester Briddell, Jr., 26, was killed as he won a bet with friends who said he would not put a revolver loaded with four bullets into his mouth and pull the trigger.

Third Place
After stepping around a marked police patrol car parked at the front door, a man walked into H&J Leather & Firearms intent on robbing the store. The shop was full of customers and a uniformed officer was standing at the counter. Upon seeing the officer, the would-be robber announced a hold-up and fired a few wild shots from a target pistol. The officer and a clerk promptly returned fire, and several customers also drew their guns and fired. The robber was pronounced dead at the scene by Paramedics. Crime scene investigators located 47 expended cartridge cases in the shop. The subsequent autopsy revealed 23 gunshot wounds. Ballistics
identified rounds from 7 different weapons. No one else was hurt.

Jury mention
Paul Stiller, 47, and his wife Bonnie were bored just driving around at 2 A.M. So they lit a quarter stick of dynamite to toss out the window to see what would happen. Apparently they failed to notice that the window was closed.

Runner up
Kerry Bingham had been drinking with several friends when one of them said they knew a person who had bungee-jumped from a local bridge in the middle of traffic. The conversation grew more excited, and at least 10 men trooped along the walkway of the bridge at 4:30 AM. Upon arrival at the midpoint of the bridge, they discovered that no one had brought a bungee rope. Bingham, who had continued drinking, volunteered and pointed out that a coil of lineman's cable lay nearby. They secured one end around Bingham's leg and then tied the other to the bridge. His fall lasted 40 feet before the cable tightened and tore his foot off at the ankle. He miraculously survived his fall into the icy water and was rescued by two nearby fishermen. Bingham's foot was never located.

AND THE WINNER IS....
Zookeeper Friedrich Riesfeldt ( Paderborn , Germany ) fed his constipated elephant 22 doses of animal laxative and more than a bushel of berries, figs and prunes before the plugged-up pachyderm finally got relief. Investigators say ill-fated Friedrich, 46, was attempting to give the ailing elephant an olive oil enema when the relieved beast unloaded. The sheer force of the elephant's unexpected defecation knocked Mr Riesfeldt to the ground where he struck his head on a rock as the elephant continued to evacuate 200 pounds of dung on top of him. It seems to be just one of those freak accidents that proves... 'Shit happens'

Saturday, December 18, 2010

Survive from the interview blues and your own attitude purples

I have known the inner shivering, the dark fears and the heartburn that no Eno can heal, when I used to give the interviews. At that time, there was hardly a couple of companies and they used to take a handful of people. I did not have enough confidence on myself, did not have any shining degrees, did not have training in soft skills or more importantly in interview techniques, did not know their ways and did not have any mentors. In those trying times, whenever I went for an interview, most of the time I had it written in the forehead in an invisible ink that I "badly need this job" and in those case, without fail, I failed to secure it. Then I understood that a job must be earned and demanded, not asked. Nowadays, in a completely changed scenarios, when I find the students complaining and shivering, I find it strange and wonder what went wrong.

Interview is a strange animal. It is a game, to say the least and often is a farce. I have seen Samamta, a guy who was an invaluable asset for the company later, being taken for a ride in his interview and Naru, who never did any work except having excellent PR with his Bosses, make a monkey of the interviewers and get a deal better than Samanta, having probably a hundredth of his talent and thousandth of the dedication. This is not a stray case either. It is quite usual that the bagpipers do much better than the real workers at the interview, which is the game of judging 25 years of worth in 25 minutes.

I can remember at least 3 interviews that I failed, each of which could have changed my life forever after. Each of those failures have cost me probably crores along with the saving of untold miseries and agonies. Getting one important interview, in that sense, is a lifetime chance and failing can never be an option. In our time, in the lower middle class background like ours, we were purely dependent on our talents to go through lives. Our fathers never bothered about the scenario planning of WHAT IF we do not score in joint, or WHAT THEN when one scored in joint. The corporate shine was visible to only a few people, like Ani’s father who trained his sons about what to become in life and how. We could not think of spending money on taking a few trainings, never were our parent could understand the associated real cost.

Nowadays the options are more, awareness and desperation have led to more research and techniques, soft skill trainers are dime a dozen, however good or bad standard they are, and even there are guys like me who makes a crusade to avenge his miseries by changing lives of those who will listen. The world is at their feet and they crib, they curse – angry at why the world is so late and still not coming to them with the cushy corner room office of the Director, with very little work so that they can be at the facebook whole day and going out for a binge at the opium, where obviously, money is better spent than some bullshit trainings or classes.

Somehow, we have awfully failed to teach our next generations that some things they are taking for granted are usually hard earned and they must be earned at some point of time. The corner office, you can call the holder a corner man or in short form a conman, does not come cheap unless your father has paid the price to build it up. It is even more difficult to keep that office on the run, as a strategy professor I constantly see how fast the world change, how fast the competition makes rubble out of the empires. If they were taught history properly at school, they would have had these perspectives even better. The stupid teachers teach the dates and the gist of the kings regime, never ever challenge them to think what happened to the King who was vanquished and had to run to survive and how they lived in the jungles with a few loyal men at the most. It is a folly that history writes only about the winners and not the losers, that creates a viewpoint in the students that the world is rosy. They dream to be the King, not really understanding the huge pressures and challenges and risks associated. Not only the teachers, our syllabus makers are no less asses in that sense that they do not even understand the purpose of teaching history. Can anybody shut his eyes and see a scene that Siraj-udowla, the tragic but arrogant brat of a King who even did not wear a nagra by his own hand, was trying to cook something in a small patch of land beside the river (on their way to Munger) for his small daughter Ummat Zohra, when the men sent by Miran (after being informed by danshah Fakir) caught him ? can somebody imagine when a King, whose family was reigning for say 7 generations, could live in the forest after he was vanquished and had to run to save his life and family ?

We do not imagine the dark side of the life and always conclude that those things cannot happen to us. We do not prepare for the dark days, do not get trained in survival techniques, and that is why we cannot face the innumerable kind of problems in our lives. Just look around and see the troubles in the people's lives, the disenchantment, the agony, chipping at the relationships, trouble at the office, fight with the Boss, marital discord - the list is endless. How many people you have seen read the chanakya slokas (in translation, even, which is fine) ? The survival training in life should start from there. Life is not fair, it’s no use hoping that it will be. However cushy is your job, if you rub the Boss’s mistress the wrong way, you are a nobody. The ultimate job security is when you can afford to roam around with your resignation letter in your pocket. Ultimate job security is the knowledge that if you go out of this door, your competitor company people will be waiting to kidnap you at the earliest. Hold your hand on your chest and tell me, how many fathers you have seen who have the vision to try to prepare their children for the dark days or difficult situations ? They harp about studying and studying, never really understanding the need for the other skills that make the difference between life and death.

So, interview is a game and then, they must be beaten at their own game – with a convincing win-win situation and all smiles – click click. It needs a definite and personalized strategy that nobody can give you or train you. But you can be trained to think how you can make this strategy. You can be trained in all other aspects – how to walk in, how to walk the talk, how to lead them rather than follow, how to guide them at your den, how to brainwash with the subtle and gentle winds, how to lay the trap, what to hide and where to do away with the bikini and finally how to negotiate – orgasmically.

It must be understood that they have no time to waste on people they think are of no worth. So, you have been called for an interview, essentially means that they finds you a potential candidate to take, only thing is that you must fit with them and then you must fit their spec. Another issue is that they always try to play on the percentages that means they will always like to interview 10 and take 4, even if all the 10 are good. when they come to the campus, they know that the educational achievement levels are more or less the same, but you must be able to justify why they should take you and not the guy to your right or left. You must show that somehow, you are different from the others in a pleasurable way. That can be anything. One nephew-in-law of mine, a particularly rash and hot-headed chap passing out from Jadavpur univ. last year, faced this question directly and said he has a "inner calmness" that differentiates him. I had trained him to do exactly that and right after the interview, when he called me up to say what happened, I asked him to go have fun because the medal has come home already.

While I try to remain painfully honest in my personal life, interview is a game and remains one and one does not need to be honest in that, I have ruefully learnt that much later but it was too late and too little for me. In an interview, you have to project, an image or a profile that matches their need and expectation – it is out and out a game of seduction. Only thing is that you have to carry it to your grave, to the offer at least and start believing then that it was not an image, it IS the real you and slowly merge into that mystique creature of your projection. They are always a part of the system, which is the all powerful establishment, and are vengeful. Once they will start guessing that you are taking them for a ride, the empire will strike back at the core of you and you may never have a second chance.

The system, always want people who will not rock the boat or try to break the system. That means they do not want Che, remember, they do not want any original thinker or intellectual also. It is not those places where the placement assistant gets all the time to her to read poems (with all due respect, for I was a budding and a rising poet myself at one time) and do nothing else and her Boss coming for the fashion shows now and then, putting the responsibility on some underpaid underdog underboss. The establishment always want mediocre obedient consistent mechanical cowards who can be retained and made to work on Sundays and on maintenance projects and will keep silent if they inadvertently come across the mistresses of the Bosses. So, if you are anything else, start changing your mould. In 0.005% of the jobs, they want brains and balls together in one place, if you think your target meets the spec, congratulations. Just go and sit, recline in your chair, put your legs on the table, order them to get you some coffee and whoa – that’s it. The interview will end and they will only ask the amount they will write on the letter. If you do not match the spec, welcome home, to the nasty slutty world of the interviews.

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Survive from our awful History teachers

When Shakuni, his father and 7 brothers were kept in jail by Duryodhan, they used to be given food and water barely enough for one person. They decided that one of them must survive to take the revenge. Because Shakuni was physically malformed, his mind was the most developed and he was the chosen one. Everyday, he was fed the food and water and all others died in hunger and thirst, one by one. Shakuni arranged to get a bone from all and used them to make a “Pasha set”. ....Mahabharat

How many people you have seen who love history? Or read history once they go out of their school ? Some of them take it up as a subject later, but alas, 99% of them take it up because they have found no other options. And that explains why, as a race, we have failed to teach the real history to the generations, why we are failing to inculcate the sense of history – the sense of perspective – the sense of strategic importance of real-politic to our promising young-stars and inspire them.

We do not teach them Mahabharat, that is used mostly as a storybook that has no real mapping to the practical lives. We do not teach them Chanakya slokas, that can really set the foundations of the sense of realpolitic – the essence of strategic thinking. Do you know anybody who has read “the Prince” of Machiavelli ?

Then we wish our children to be bigger than all others, outshine all others by miles. We teach them logical thinking – the thinking that is also used by machines and if you train a goat and use them to run the machine, he CAN!! We only want them to get in the JOINT!! Only one question from my side, “Then ???” We are blissfully unaware of the need for lateral thinking – the creative and innovative thinking that can set one apart from all others, in all aspects of life – be it excellence in studies - survival in workplace or peace and harmony in relationships. It is the nectar, the Philosophers stone that can touch someone’s life and start a process of creativity that is irreversible, it can’s be stopped ever.

Let’s come back to the question of the sense of perspectives. We consider history to be a rubbish dump for the dates and place and people, maybe a bit of features, a pinch of characteristics, a dash of causes and effects – but where are the lessons ? History is like the only zero sum game where we can be the passive viewers to the strategies employed and look at the right and wrong decisions taken with a detachment. This is our only chance of learning the deepest lessons of life without actually paying dearly for it. And we just falter at the alter of the ridiculous and throw away that chance, and try to memorize a few dates .. and places .. and people.. There should be a limit to being dumb.

I teach history to my daughter slowly, as a lifetime job, as I myself go on learning. I am qualified enough to work on three technical areas – IT, management and Insurance practice and super-specialized on strategic management which I teach at the MBA level (to some brilliant and some dumb students) but the subject I mostly study even at this age is , well you guessed it – HISTORY. This was my first love and has remained with me ever-after. But every time I start teaching from her history syllabus before her exams, I get painfully aware of how dumb the teachers are (well, they had no other options for subjects – I told you nah!!) and so the students think “oh no, once I get out of the clutch of this subject.. never again”. We have failed to light their interest of the perspective – failed awfully to inspire the generations.

When my 85-year old Pop needs to blast the education system, he has a ready example of me. “If we had enough money to provide the support or we had a bit more faith in the running of the Calcutta University, he should have studied history. But NOOOOO. We probably sacrificed a top-class historian to make a very mediocre engineer”. Not a very flattering observation, but nevertheless true. I am a failure as an engineer. I never had my heart into it. I just loved History and I still do it. Only I hate these stupid teachers who cannot teach us the lessons, who make us hate the subject itself.

Sunday, September 20, 2009

“Mon Tuley nao” – The arts of managing hurts



whom the arms cannot tear
the fire cannot burn

Enlightenment is the state where you can stop the running stream of thoughts in your mind and attain the absolute inner stillness, to look inward and merge with your own being. Since my first Guru, Sanjay Salooja, had opened the beautiful windows of life for me, I have always been in hot pursuit of the nectar of life, the true enlightenment that provides one with the real and complete enrichment for the soul. In the last eight years, the journey has changed my destiny and everything else. It culminated into leaving my job, industry, profession and career and I am running on the way of true fulfillment. The transformational whirlpool has tied me down the gutter at days, the emotional and financial roller-coaster have drained us on nights, the uncertainty of life without the fat check we got used to has pushed my wife to the brink of the edge at times, but being of the “never surrender” type, I know I have the strength to achieve any impossible and many times in the past, I have literally survived the hurricanes with the strength of will. Insh allah – be it to your wish.

But the journey does not leave aside the relationships, in fact, it solidifies them to a more enriched state that provides the meaning of the nectar itself. And, like for the one-eyed stag, there remains the risk of pain, of being hurt. It calls for a deep personal strategy of defense - of pain management.

While our mind is completely logical and selfish, in it’s truest form, and does not recognize the need for anyone in your life except for the fleeting moments when you need someone for something, our soul lives on the relationships – with yourself and all others. Here lies the real source of the pain, the slights that can emerge from the lovely fountains – often unexpectedly – sometimes so deep that they are almost palpable, you can almost touch them, embrace them, sleep with them – like your lover, or an enemy – that is only a viewpoint. The ultimate test of a lover is not where she stands at the time of glory and comfort, it is where she stands at the time of the challenge, controversy, pains and the sufferings – the bonfire of the hearts, honeymoon of the fire, blood and death. The most severe pains can often emanate from the place from where you get so much of the magic of fulfillment.

Pain is a vague word and doesn’t really mean anything. While we are pained by a shocking picture of a ghostly Ethiopian child skeleton in search of some water to drink, or the news of a small child being crushed by a speeding bus – even without having the verdict of being cruel and heartless - these are truly superficial. They are transient thoughts taking the form of noise over our stream of communications between our mind and the sub-conscious. A very few of them sometimes manage to leave a mark, which too get obliterated with time. The real pain is always personal, a personal hurt that leaves a wound but that needs more than a medicine to cure. A word of encouragement, a hug, a sorry, a gentle stroke on the arm or a charming smile can do wonders in most times when the hurt is small. Sometime even they fail when the hurt is deep, the wound is grievous and coming from the quarters where you forgetfully left your soul the last time you hugged her, we bleed internally and often silently.

The level of attachment and the level of expectations are the key factors for these intense feelings of hurts. The more we attach ourselves to others, the more we expect from others - be it love, be it kindness, understanding, sacrifice – the more we empower others with the power and the force to hurt us, to disturb us. Only when we go for the extreme “self-care”, love ourselves deeply and truly, we can gain the freedom from the external needs - emotional, physical and psychological, that tries to tie us to the external with a strong bond. And once we get that freedom, you will find it much easier to come to a dialogue with their past behaviour.

You must be responsible for your own feelings and hurts, not only the acts. So long you will put the responsibility of your problems and lacking on others, as long as you will blame others for whatever happen to you, you will remain a victim of the victimisation syndrome and get stuck at that point of your life, unable to ascend or move forward. After years of living through the dark tunnels that used to whisper about never getting out of there alive, after a failed teenage affair that turned sour and nasty, I finally accepted that my hurts have nothing to do with the other. It has all to do with myself. You must release yourself from being angry with others. You must be very inside the bloodbath yet without a spot of the sticky red jelly on your soul.

The love of self has a great part to play in our forgiveness journey. For it is only when we truly love ourselves that we can find an inner sanctuary that gives us the strength and stability to engage with the world without being affected by it. On forgiving, the flow of love within us quickens leading to further growth. Unless we flush out the toxin, run away from that sunset boulevard, an act beautifully portrayed in the film “Jab we met”, we do not get back the freedom, joy and peace as we want them.

It is the curse of human that we are constantly carrying our own crosses on our shoulders. We are born tender and fragile, with a crystal –like disposition that allows the cuts and slashes, bruises and gashes. A physical pain is much easier to manage, because of their tangible character, but not an emotional or psychic one. At first, any pain is acute and without the healing touch or bad management, it may become chronic.

Forgiveness helps us emerge whole from our wounded past, and return to the business of our lives with renewed energy, focus, wisdom and peace. It is the bottleneck, the hell’s crossing, through which we must pass. You must heal yourself, you must let go of the past at a certain point, you must cut the rope when there is no meaning anymore. Freedom demands that you also must be free from the dead. “When you hold resentment toward another you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel”. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.

Your hurts have nothing to do with other, they have to do with you. Your poor boundaries and self-esteem can give others a force over you where they can occupy your inordinate mindscape and control your feelings. And when others can hold your strings and make you dance in a puppet show, you are not free, you are a puppet. J Krishnamurti once told a follower that as long as she was capable of being hurt she was not free of the mind. Eckhart Tolle, my another Guru towards enlightenment, has written “Forgiveness is to offer no resistance to life – to allow life to live through you. The alternatives are pain and suffering. The moment you truly forgive, you have reclaimed your power from the mind. Non-forgiveness is the very nature of the mind.”

When you will cry for more freedom, when you cannot be your best self with others, the dark forces will multiply in a cancerous growth and the power over you will rise, enough to decide your actions, leading to a complete surrender to the forces. Look at it as the will of the almighty, look at it as another test of Him for your strength. If you can win it, you will be rewarded with even more strength. Accept the act and the person, accept the past. Gain strength of mind through patient exercises and snatch back the control of your mind. Then you can stop that stream of thoughts, which is mostly reactive thinking. Then, you will gain back the peace, with the external losing the power to disturb it. Then you get you’re your complete freedom.

Communicate – with your trusted ones. It can tear the shackles and let go of you the crippling paradigm that is tearing into your heart. Find inspiration in the unconditional love you get from some people, particularly your parents and maybe your siblings, spouse, children, relatives, friends etc. This will enable you to transcend the anger that will inevitably rise in the journey of life. A disciple wrote about Swami Chidananda, “Swamiji Maharaj never, ever judged us or found us lacking; never, ever withheld His love from us. He simply radiated blessings towards all, all the time, everywhere, in all conditions”. This is unconditional love. It provides a strength and stability that is rarely found from other sources.

If you give a dying plant the care, water and the sun, life will flourish into that. Forgiving somebody is nurturing yourself. As we grow and embrace the journey towards enlightenment, the growth in consciousness provides us more freedom from the subconscious stream of crippling thoughts. Life is essentially a process and a dialogue with our own inner consciousness allows us to rise and forgive, to let go. Einstein said one cannot solve a problem at the same level of consciousness which gave rise to the problem itself. The inner strength give us the light.

Do not try to escape the pain. It comes through the natural laws of humanity and is like a lighthouse which you can disobey, to your own peril, but cannot break down with your ship. Running away from suffering is in itself suffering, probably to a higher degree as that will take over the subconscious and will drive you from that point. The wiser course is to experience the hurt and the suffering. Then you detach yourself, “Mon Tula nao”, and become your own Lord.

P.S. : I dedicate this piece to Sanjoy Dutta, a dearest friend for nearly three decades, who showed me the light long ago with a phrase “ Mon tuley nao” (trans – detach your soul), in a letter in reply to an emotionally charged description of my life at that time. It means at that point of time, he was ahead of me by those two decades and a lot of pains that I have taken to truly understand it

Saturday, September 19, 2009

Koli .. I mean.. Cattle-Yuga – Survive from the holy politicians

In a republic, public is the most important thing and regard them so highly that you constantly tell lies to them to garner the votes. This is the motto of our beloved leaders. Some prefer to call them jokers, but I will stick to their original status. What sins did we commit to not deserve them?

On a perfect back-handed volley by one of the most colorful characters of our times, a man with exceptional talent and intelligence, on his twitter account is attracting daily fire-smacking and mudslinging by our big leaders, small people of all hues - complainer, bootlicker, saboteur, bully, backstabber, wheeler-dealer, muckraker, mudslinger, swamp dweller, life-hater and what-not ! They are throwing up daily fits in trying to fit in some of their runaway ambitions and in the bargain raised a big question mark over the basic integrity of a whole bloodied nation. All in the indirect blessing of the low-integrity high-command or in a desperate bid to please that ubiquitous and cunning supreme power called Lady.

A bona-fide sharp wit has thrown up the golden half-chance. Sharp knifes are out, cold as a razor blade, tight as a tourniquet, dry as a funeral drum, blood-hungry like the Casius dagger. The victim is running around in search of some nook and it is an ex-parte, open field for the very small people to make the goals.

Ipso facto, by the very fact that the remark was made to answer a diabolical question which used the word “cattle class” – which is oh so T R U E by any view and standard, the return volley included the “holy cow” which, to any witty person, is appropriate answer and a respectable wit. But that is being used as the body of crime, Corpus delicti, goes to point to the deep rot in our political system and not a fallacy on the commentator.

In the middle of this macabre theater of the absurd, it’s a cold comfort that The Lady or his even more holy son are silent till now – as no one dare disturb the sound of silence.
("Fools," said I, "you do not know Silence like a cancer grows” – courtesy Paul Simon – “And the people bowed and prayed to the neon god they made”). This has given even more ammunition to the power-hungry scums to shout louder and suggest more and more punishment ? Punishment ? I am laughing so hard that a health disaster is imminent. This is cattle-yug, Supreme Lord, make me blind, and don’t forget deaf and dumb and do it NOW.

The drama that is being enacted by the ruling party for a long time is diabolical enough, now they have suddenly got a new and potent weapon called “austerity”. To re(lease) the public in the pond of lies, every Tom Dick (and even their Mom !!??) are traveling with the cattle class (quite a revelation – I always though they were the pigs – to be slaughtered). While hundreds of crores being spent on their security alone (and hundereds on other facilities), they are saving “Rs. 8000” and flashing it in all the newspapaers at the expense of crores ? What about the lacs. Crores of Indian black money in the foreign secret accounts (of which I won’t be surprised if our Emperor family has 20000 crores) ? What about the thousands of crores of public (I mean of those pigs – I mean cattles) money that is stolen and siphoned off every year ? What about the lacs of crores that the industrialists have not paid back the banks (our banks !) ? What about the lacs of crores that have been raised from the public on the share market and the companies vanished into the blues – have you ever seen even one of those 2000+ companies being punished ? What about the thousands of crores that are shown and agricultural income every year and not a paisa of tax paid on them ? Simple, you buy a fabulous farm house in Mehrauli with 15 crores, show it as 50 Lacs, and then show that every year it produces tomatos and cabbages of Rs. 14 crores – 100% tax-free as agricultural income. I dare Pranab tax the agricultural income at 0.5% (that too above Rs. 5 Lacs) which will force them to declare the return every year. I am ready to bet my wife and daughter that he can’t. He will be lynched by the politicians of all parties together. The theft and the siphoning of money seems to have been systematic and institutionalized under the 50 year rule of the “Party”. It’s party time, folks.

The issue is that it is not a question of saving Rs. 8000/- or 8 lacs or it’s real benefit (The Telegraph showed a few days that by not using the Government plane, our Foreign Minister is spending much more on the commercial planes). The question is to make a Suggestio falsi, present a vicious lie to the cattles (or they think us as pigs ? ) that is the general public. These scums do not do any pro bono social work, they do their own aggrandizement for which we spend thousands of crores of our money. Philosophers say that “Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful”, then why are we still putting up with these scums ?

Manmohan Singh, the only man among the wolves but who still behaves like a boy in front of the Lady, has spoken that the comment was made as a joke but what was missing was the ruthless finality of a fullstop and that obviously did not make much difference to the wolves on the scent of child blood.

The incident is a landmark in the sense that it is making a wrong precedent in the matters of public dealing and honesty of the rare people like Tharoor. The problem of planting a poison tree is that while some trees may not give fruit, a poison tree will always give fruit, one day or the other. If it doesn’t, men will fly across the heavens!

Saturday, September 5, 2009

Survive from the Complex people

Every sacrifice is a gift and of course, every gift is a sacrifice. Some people, however rare and near-extinct, have made this their basic nature, alas, to the consternation of the complex people, who are in an unending search of issues, big or small, to pounce on others.

In the macabre theater of the absurd, even a perfectly innocent joke, even in a surrounding which is traditionally and ritually meant for a light atmosphere, is taken up later to stick the “other side”, which is the basic paradigm of complex people. They always try to draw up the sides, notwithstanding the intent of those people or the long-term needs and views. They will twist and turn, cut and slash, trim and slime – almost any words or issues. The issues and events do not necessarily have to be real, even a hint of content is enough, the gentlemanly intent is not required, Thank you.

The biggest victims are generally the people who are the most protected, because in these cases, they are completely out of tune of how to handle these people, who are hostile without any real reasons, they defy all logic to be so. Giving is also not a solution. The more you give, they will make a momentary pause, and attack from that very angle, saying the things could have been even better. They have an insensible urge to dominate, particularly over all people who are weak and meek, as they do not really possess the real power that can sword even the powerful.

Ignoring them is also not another solution, because they usually choose the preys among the people who cannot do that, as most other people who can afford or have enough power on themselves, do just that and do it rudely enough to be excused thence. They should be kept at a distance though, as far as practicable. Because complex people are not necessarily bad, they are complex and love to act mean. This may happen even in a family full of people who do not care for such acts. They enjoy their meanness and the fact that for some people, this comes as a heart-breaking fact, particularly those who try to go beyond their capacity or limits to make these people happy, for some reason or the other, and make a good relationship with them.

The basic strategy should be to bear, and do it silently. No empire, however mighty and ruthless, has been able to go down the history as unchallenged ever. The wheel of time has not stopped for anyone. They should be own over, with time, or vanquished, also with patience. Even a mad person get back his senses sometimes, these are only complex people.

The only times you should react, keeping the standards of weights and measures, sternly - firmly and forcefully, are the times when the complex tend to turn to devious, that is, those things will be uttered not for an immediate gain and fun of running the knife, but with a long term objective of the scalpel. These things are done to establish a ground, which once established by the absentee vote of yours, can lead to an advantage ground in a larger canvas of shrewd political games. the stake can be anything, proving you a semi-despot to a long pending issue about the property division. Here you must break the point and throw the dish. "Deny the allegation and defy the alligator" (Shall we tell the President ?).

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Remembering a lost friend – A case for safety belt and helmet


My heart is profusely bleeding for the last few weeks after the death of a close relative – A boy of 29, a nice sober chap working for my ex-company, Siemens Information Systems Ltd. A guy never used to speeding or rash driving or driving without a helmet, he went to his garage to receive his bike after a service, just a few stops away and just did not care to take his customary helmet. While coming back, while trying to give some space to a overtaking truck, he hit the side culvert wall, thrown off the bike and hit the wall head on before falling off the culvert. The massive head injury led to instant coma and after a few minutes, was “brought dead” in the nearest nursing home, only a kilometer away.

This led to the opening up of another deep wound of mine. Suryanu, a friend who was like a brother, went to South Africa for TCS in 1997-8. Another extremely nice guy, he was a bit adamant on a few odd things, like he never liked to wear the seat belt. In kolkata, you can still get away but in SA ? While coming back from Sun City to Jo’berg, he (was an expert driver) missed an exit and tried to swerve the car. The car was overturned several times, the windshield went off and he was thrown off the car, hit the street on the back of his head. Within a few minutes a police chopper took him away to a hospital but there was nothing to do. For 12 years now, We (my wife was also very fond of him) have carried that deep wound within ourselves, all because he did not wear a seatbelt ? There were 3 more guys on that car (including another friend of mine now in CTS) all wearing belts and nothing happened to them except the shock.

Another good friend, an employee of Airports Authority (they have unlimited medical facility, thank you), who is normally very calculative about any expense but nicely bought a high quality expensive helmet of Studds, met with an accident in his bike in which the helmet got smashed and he spent nearly 3 weeks in Apollo Gleneagles. Can you imagine what would have happened to his head if the helmet was like a mine worker’s hat that many people wear, to avoid and bypass the Police rules ?

Let’s talk about survival. Whom are we cheating when we try to bypass the rules and think everything will be okay ? The Police Commissioner will not be dead in an accident, but you will. While you care to lock up the irrelevant things that you can buy by thousands, lock your life.

Look at the masks and laugh aloud - They are not real

I got the following mail today, a very crude, rude and unprofessionally created one :

--- On Tue, 30/6/09, Yahoo! Member Service wrote:

From: Yahoo! Member Service
Subject: Yahoo Alert: Your Account Information Has Changed
To:
Date: Tuesday, 30 June, 2009, 1:04 AM

Dear Value Member,

Account Alert

Dear Valued Member,

Due to the congestion in all Yahoo, There will be removal of all unused Yahoo Accounts,Yahoo would be shutting down all unused Accounts,You will have to confirm your E-mail by filling out your Login Info below after clicking the reply bottom, or your account will be suspended within 24 hours for security reasons.

UserName:...........................
Password:............................
Date of Birth:.....................
Country Or Territory:....................

After following the instructions in the sheet, your account will not be interrupted and will continue as normal.
Thanks for your attention to this request. We apologize for any inconvenience.

Warning code:.................VX2G99AAJ

Account owner that refuses to update his or her account before two weeks of receiving this warning will lose his or her account permanently.

LETTER END (SUDIP)

NEVER EVER GIVE OUT YOUR LOGINID AND PASSWORD ON ANY MAIL, WHOEVER IT IS. Yahoo is not mad to ask for these information on an unsecured line from it's clients, whose passwords they can access if required or at least reset, in any emergency.

Monday, June 29, 2009

The con-mail and the fishy smell - The glittering diamonds of dumbness

A long mail with the title “Fw: Fw: Fw: Fw: Fw: Fw: Please do it - Microsoft Paying you - Not Fake” jerked me out of my unbreakable inner calm and rudely wakened me to a surprise revelation of the basic dumbness of even the so-called educated intelligent people. This is the dumbness that flows out of the fountainhead of greed that chunks out the basic logic and reasoning out of the people and makes them run towards even any remote hazy unjustified promise of easy money.

The basic mail says
“Dear Friends,
Please do not take this for a junk letter. Bill Gates is sharing his fortune. If you ignore this you will repent later. Microsoft and AOL are now the largest Internet companies and in an effort to make sure that Internet Explorer remains the most widely used program, Microsoft and AOL are running an e-mail beta test..

When you forward this e-mail to friends, Microsoft can and will track it (if you are a Microsoft Windows user) for a two week time period.

For every person that you forward this e-mail to, Microsoft will pay you $245.00, for every person that you sent it to that forwards it on, Microsoft will pay you $243.00 and for every third person that receives it, you will be paid $241.00. Within two week! s, Microsoft will contact you for your address and then send you a cheque.”

There is no name of details of the sender or other details but there are some cut-out portions of some people (with no real contact details again except some hazy sketches of company names like Cognizant-TCS-Trident Hilton and a couple of designations like Front Office manager, no wonder, and dates like 15th August, 2005 -31st August, 2005 and 09/02/2005 and January 09, 2007). They have all said that they have got $10002 or $34271 or $9386 or $12545 or $30000 or $12121 etc.

Do I need to say more ? Since 19997, when I first got my internet access in office, I am seeing these kind of mails, usually sent by pranksters out to get a high or just with the good intent of jamming the network. Now the network is too big to be affected but the fun is still there (example are the mails with a picture of Jesus or Ganesh saying you should send it to so many people to get a lot of luck etc. and this and that will happen if you don’t send it etc. etc.). They sometimes play on your religiousness or emotion and sometimes with your greed. The result is that I am seeing many ids associated with the mail senders and many of the recipients are bulk ids (many also associated with the pharma co. raptakos). The height is that this has been forwarded to me by an ex-classmate of mine in IIM-C, a guy who used to do well in class, was good in strategy and was nicknamed “Professor” by us (naming credit to this poor guy). Don’t know if I should write to prof. Ranjan Das to strip him his diploma.

For quite some time I am after the question why and how do we act so dumb that we do not see the obvious? This is one of the case study. The next question is how many sympathy drinks can you get out of, "Well, this mail said I have own a big lottery and asked for my details and with login and password, so I gave it to them"? There's no epic story here, no melodrama, no classic twists and turns.

The con-men are everywhere, some of them are just pranksters, rest are con about whom I have recently written. In any case, the first step would always be to gain your confidence - the "con" in "con man" and to show you the sunrise of a few million dollars in the lottery you own. Some will brazenly ask for your personal details, the innocent ones at first and then the more private ones in a next step. Others will be more tacit and will politely ask if you are willing to accept the prize. They will try to gain your trust and even become your friend through an elaborate set of lies, set like a stepped garden and let you be in on the lifetime chance, something that your friends will beat you if you let it go by, Then finally, with flair and grace, they will turn the knife, rip the heart out and depart, with your money and your trust on mankind.

I repeat - You can cheat anyone, but con only a greedy man.

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

The lure of easy money - Survive from your own greed

For many yearsnow, I am getting the coveted mails - the ones informing me that I have own a lottery of XX millions of US dollars and whom should I send my so and so information to claim it. My 12 year old daughter saw one and demanded to know why I am not replying to it. I said whmmm.

Have you ever come across a person coming to your house wanting to sell a Gold chain at a throwaway price ? With a story that he came from another place and all his belongings are stolen and so he is trying to gather only the return fare by his last possession this chain and you can buy it at 1/10th the price ? One (otherwise very honest) gentleman I know even went to the extent of going to the local jewelers and tested it for purity before buying it (at double of what the man asked for, because by then he believed the story) and later found that even though he was alert, the man had replaced the gold chain by a steel goldplated one, priced at 1/50th of what he paid and is worthless.

As a principle, I never buy lottery tickets and never ever (except buying one of Rs. 5 long ago, pitying the vendor and throwing the ticket right afterwards) spent any money on the lotteries. I never subscribe to the free gifts of the products (for which you have to send the cutting or the label or sms or anything) or the sms campaigns. I always knew that nobody is there to give you anything for free and it is the conmen only who really understand the value of aggregation and devised all these schemes (and later passed on to the TV channels for devising the reality shows where they could get crores of sms-es at Rs.7 each and then manipulating the whole show so that contestants are from the regions where people will set up booths to do the sms-es in a frenzy so that their guy wins).

All my life, I have carried the view that I will try anything once. Generally I have tried to stick to that and till now failed only in a few areas (Having heroin – never could arrange one, going to a certain kind of women – never could manage the courage, doing bungee jumping – developed cold feet at the last moment in Blackpool pleasure beach many years before just before they tied the 100 mt long steel rope on my feet, going to the horse-races – but this I will definitely do some day, etc. ) . But certain areas are simply taboo. Buying lottery ticket for one. Gambling is another. I always fought the urge of the easy money and still do. It is the money with dignity that you can really enjoy. This is why I have brushed off any suggestion or proposal from different people from different quarters for taking an agency (??!!) of Amway or such other bubble kind of scheme, though I personally know some people doing it (and earning a lot if they went in early) and used some products (got them at 40% discount while they price it generally at 1000% markup scale) which were very good. What I always hated was the concept itself.

I did a project on the Ponzi bubble scheme variations for my Finance specialization and gathered enough knowledge to develop an ingrained hatred for the schemes, while gawking at the ingenuity of the variations spawned later and developing enough wisdom to stay away from all such kind of pyramidal bubbles that gives super profits to the schemers and their associates and sucks in all kind of greedy people, before breaking up like a pack of cards. The concept is that “A Ponzi scheme is a fraudulent investment operation that pays returns to investors from their own money or money paid by subsequent investors rather than from any actual profit earned. The Ponzi scheme usually offers returns that other investments cannot guarantee in order to entice new investors, in the form of short-term returns that are either abnormally high or unusually consistent. The perpetuation of the returns that a Ponzi scheme advertises and pays requires an ever-increasing flow of money from investors in order to keep the scheme going”. Amway, though a slight variant and probably will not go away easily before it starts hurting too many people, is a good example of this scheme. One beautiful example of the scheme’s working is that : in 1979, a Chartered accountant (found out later) from Chennai came to Calcutta and took a room in a slum while he was looking for some small business opportunity. He was amiable and friendly with the slum people and gained their trust in a few months. Then he started a scheme that he will take a loan from anybody of Rs.10 every Friday and will give back Rs.12 the next Friday (but the upper limit of any one person lending was Rs. 100) provided the lender brings two more lenders of the same amount, otherwise he will get back Rs. 9 only. The return was nearly 90% monthly and people got interested. After a couple of months, the initial doubts and inhibitions also went away and every Friday there was a mad rush to give loans to him. After 5 months of running it, the guy disappeared, only to be found out in Chennai by a dogged journalist where the guy had bought a factory for Rs. 40 Lacs. At rough estimates, the guy had made about 70-90 Lacs in those 8 months he stayed out there. While nobody lost more than 100 rupees at a time and was not interested in going to the Police and get harassed.

For some of the best examples of the conmen, read “If tomorrow comes” by Sidney Sheldon where the protagonists, Tracy Whitney and Jeff Stevens shows the con trade in minute details. The main lessons are that “
1) You cannot con an honest person. It needs greed to be sucked into a con
2) But there is no dearth of people for them as most of the people are inherently greedy and is always on the lookout for easy money
3) The conmen are much smarter than the normal people, who, despite trying to be alert, can never stand a chance against a conman
4) Con depends on the innovations. But even the oldest ones like the sunken ship full of Gold, still works
5) Some people are inherently gullible and jump in any scheme that you set up, even selling the Tajmahal

Now, after I have spent so much time on you, best of luck on walking right into the next scheme you can find. Have an example of the mails I get (in the last one month, I received 23 mails).

From: pissa akaba
Subject: I NEED YOUR URGENT REPLY CONFIDENTIAL
To:
Date: Tuesday, 23 June, 2009, 12:55 AM
From Mr Pissa Akaba
Bill & Exchange Manager
Bank of Africa
Ougadougou Burkina Faso
W/Africa.
Dear Friend,
Pls i want you to read this letter very carefully and i must apologize for bringing this message into your mail box without any formal introduction due to the urgency and confidential of this issue and i know that this message will come to you as a surprise,

our customer a crude oil dealer MR.HUS BEN AN AMERICAN who was with the Iraqi oil industries and also an oil supplier to republic of Burkina Faso made a numbered fixed deposit for18 calendar months, with a value of Ten million United State Dollars(US$10m dollars) in our bank,

Upon maturity several notices was sent to him, even during the war which began in 2003. Again after the war another notification was sent and still no response came from him. We later find out that the oil dealer MR HUS BEN along with his wife and only daughter had been killed during the war in a bomb blast that hit their home. You can read more about the bombings on visiting these sites below: http://www.ccmep.org/usbombingwatch/2003.htm#3/19/03

After further investigation it was also discovered that MR.HUS BEN did not declare any next of kin in his official papers including the paperwork of his bank deposit,

And he also confided in me the last time he was at my office that no one except me knew of his deposit in our bank So I need your urgent assistance in transferring the sum of (US$10m dollars millions usd into your bank account within 7working banking days,

What bothers me most is that according to the laws of country A burkinabe cannot come out and claim this fund and I don't want the money to go into our Bank treasure as an abandoned fund,

So this is the reason why i contacted you so that our bank will release this money to you as the next of kin to the deceased customer, Please I would like you to keep this proposal as a top secret and delete it if you are not interesting,

Upon the receipt of your reply and indication of your capability, i will give you full details on how the business will be executed and also note that you will have 35% of the above mentioned sum if you agree to handle this business with me while 55% will be for me and 10% for any expenses that may arise on the process,

And remember i don't want anyone here in our bank to know my involvement until you confirm this fund into your account and ask me to come over for the sharing as indicated, Then after i and my colleagues will visit your contry for disbursement acconding to the percentage indicated,

Therefore to enable the immediate transfer of this fund to you as arranged, you must apply first to the bank as the next of kin of the deceased,
Please, dont entertain any atom of fear because the transaction is 100% risk free. Note that, to be relation with the deceased or not will not impose or prevent you to claim the money,

The fact is that whatever information we will present to the bank should be accurate. Rests assured that I will provide all the necessary information which the bank may require from you during the process to make sure everything goes well and fast.

Referring to the above explanations, await your urgent response,and fill those question below to enable us proceed this business
Your Full Name............................
Your Sex.................................
Your Country..............................
Your Marital Status......................
Your Age.............................
Your Occupation..........................
Your Personal Mobile Number....................
Your Personal Fax Number......................
To enable me locate you once i come over to your country immediately you confirm this US$10m dollars usd, into your nominated bank account, As soon as i receive your postive respond i will send you the text of application which you will use to apply in my bank as next of kin.

Thanks
Mr Pissa Akaba
B.O.A (Bank Of Africa)

Sunday, June 21, 2009

A mentor - The Strategic necessity and why I became one

After all these months that people generally thought I am mad, I think the time has come to give an explanation of what I am doing and why. I have become a mentor, after leaving my job, my career and the positions that are quire a dream for most of the people. But the point is that I have done it after I have prepared myself for years on.

I’ve learnt most of the things I know the hard way on the streets of life, by trial and error in my endless personal search for a way of life. It was almost like being a steam engine, scooping up water as it runs. I also ran like that for decades, mostly to survive, in search of an identity, in other times to prove a point to myself or in pursuit of happiness, but sometimes with desire, mostly wild and not definite ones.

Now, after running with all I had for almost 20 years and achieving almost everything I could hope for, I know what I really lacked at the word GO. It was a mentor, a guide who would help to some basic facts of life – secrets which lay in the open yet very few people are aware of them or their importance for the success in all we try to do. Now I know that even while running with all the passions you have, you need a direction, a goal and a definite desire, not a mere one.

Let me go deeper on one point as an example. Talking about goal, have any of you have ever really given a deep thought about how do we decide? What kind of parameters we usually use or how dumb we normally act to take an all-important decision of life? I believe, 99% of the people take at least 95% of all their important decisions on the wrong notions and parameters and with an undue haste. Then they suffer patiently for years and decades as the fallouts of those hasty decisions they refused to delay for a few days to think.

I will give a few examples to make my point. I have seen a friend falling in love in 2 hours and then suffer in that relationship for 2 years. Another guy, a talented painter who wanted to go to the Art College, was pushed by his Businessman father to Commerce. Today, he is a CA, partner of a firm and spends most of his time painting. Another of my friends, a true music-lover, married a complete mismatch of a girl just because she was a Sangeet Prabhakar or something. As far as I know, in the 15 years of their marriage, she only shouted and never sang. Of course, she learned music for marriage, and now she is married.

Young people often try to set their dream career on a feeling of wild wish, say to be a Pilot as that seems the highest thing in the world, or according to parental wish, social respectability & probability of getting a plum job. Neither them nor their parents mostly care about their passion, flair & interest. Nowadays everybody wants to go into IT sector, where I have seen more than half of the people disillusioned, dissatisfied and remorseful but they go on toiling only for the money and for the lack of choice.

I spent most of my life to gather the pieces one by one, sucking up the experiences of a thousand people on the streets. I always learnt from mistakes, at huge costs. I understand now that a mentor could have given me much of these on a platter long ago and in a more structured way, and that too at a very little cost. It’s almost like an MBA from a top B-school being the Marketing manager at a salary of 10 Lacs at the age of 24 and another guy spending 20 years at the field to reach the Asst manager position at 42 at a salary of 6 lacs.

I have no regrets regarding my past. I do not have any more point to prove. I was born a fighter and I have fought well and valiantly, in spite of all odds. I have seen life from many angles and fronts and finally reached a level of contentment and enlightenment that has made my past irrelevant to me any more. It seems to me nowadays like a different birth or just looking at a different man. But now, I want to share my real life and enriched experiences with the next generations, the youngsters. For almost a decade, I am having this definite and strong desire to touch their lives and to transform them. Then at least they will not have to go through the hell that I have gone thro’, not live in the dark tunnels that felt like there was no light ever, not have to suffer the agony and pain that was my life at one time, like many other people, not have to sail without a proper hull or rations as the life will take them in line with the currents and the gales. But even as I decided to act on this definite desire, it took me nearly 8 years of hard work to be prepared., to reach the level of wisdom, to reach this level of control on my being, to reach this state of enlightenment where I have the power to touch someone’s life and transform it.

After I myself got a training somewhat on this line 8 years ago, this has been my passion and obsession. I have spent years studying, thinking, planning, writing, communicating, meditating, practicing, training and above all, being in complete contemplation under the BodhiTree, which is my own being. I have been in touch with many of the few Gurus who are there in the related fields in India, Sanjay Salooja, Shiv Khera, Shree Shree Ravishankar, Dr. Somesh Chaddha and also Richard Saldan in USA. I have trained under them, communicated with them and been blessed by their wisdom and powers. I did not care for the cost, in terms of more career opportunities, money, time or comfort, in search of this true wealth. But I was learning fast and my own attitude was being transformed. I became much more organized, energized, stable, clam, understanding, caring and balanced. I spent much lesser time with my family and friends but the relationships bloomed like they had received the necter. I had a new coat for an attitude and I had finally found the secrets of successful and beautiful relationships and needed very less but quality time with them.

After many hectic but fulfilling years, one morning, I woke up very early and saw the beautiful first light of the breaking dawn coming through the curtains and giving my room a mystic misty shade, I knew I am finally ready, at least to begin the journey. I have the light. I called up my friend Richard over at lunch and told him, he simply said “Yes, I had the same experience”. I resigned my very lucrative job, something that’s a final dream for too many people, and came back. Some people called me mad but I have little use of the opinion of those people who cannot even communicate with their own self that they will do it with my being.

I organized and stitched up a team of people who shared the passion and the desire to help the young people and had the brilliance to be able to do so. I was fortunate to find out experts as advisors in some key areas where I needed help and the areas where we needed more research. The uniqueness of the course was a challenge because nobody else conducts such a course. The few people who are the Gurus in this field, generally take up the seminars for the corporate people, who can pay the astronomical fees and the seminars were more tuned to polish up and fine-tune the middle and senior level employees, mostly by external motivators and techniques to improve their productivity, with the ultimate objective of indirect benefits to the Company. Those are the Personality Development and Soft Skills programs that work on the external characteristics rather than the internal basics of the people, the inner consciousness and the Value system that give rise to true success and happiness. I wanted to take a completely different view towards this all along, to take the deep-rooted value-based principle-centric approach of the older generations, professed by Napoleon Hill before the World war II and Dr. Stephen Covey in the recent decades, but that again had to be customized for the young people.

All these roadblocks had to be surpassed, but I knew I had to do that and so I did and here I am, today. I will not get back the beautiful years that I lost, and I do not need them now any more with the later enrichment, but I will ensure that the pain does not envelop anybody who will seek, who will submit and who will ask for my shelter.

Strategic resource view - Personal viewpoint

Many people have asked me in a titbit how somebody can handle a very bad situation. I have always answered “attack from another flank”. This is a favorite strategy for me all my life, even while driving in Kolkata, I deftly use the underused left flank of the bypass to overtake most of the cars.

But the strategy is deeper than it looks. Attacking from “another” flank is not easy, the first factor is the deeply ingrained beliefs and paradigms about oneself. If someone thinks he is only suitable for any job that someone will “give him” and then he will do it “somehow”, that he is not suitable for any bigger thing, then “attack” become a joke. The paradigm has to be changed first, which takes a lot of mental strength to begin with, and then takes some self-respect, self-worth and confidence, things that the average bengali parents fail to inculcate in their children – evident from the protectionist and patronizing attitude shown from the beginning. These children are also “taught” that the ultimate goal is to “get a job”, totally unlike the Marwari or Gujarati (and not all of them are rich, I must say) people who know from quite early ages that they will do their own business some day, even when many of them do well in the studies and become CAs or other professionals, these are stepping stones for them, a part of their strategy.

In my office and in many other places I have seen people working as office assistants and in other roles at a salary of 2/3 thousand rupees a month. I have watched some of them closely to find out that it is not the lack of intelligence, it is the lack of confidence, the mental strength to fight any piece of shit that is dished out to him. This is the reason why penniless Biharis and some oriyas come to Kolkata and open a paan shop somewhere and often earn many times of that amount. Initially there are some local Dada or police trouble which has to be handled by courage and some money, which is probably the only pre-requisite. These people will always ask “but where do I get the money?” as if money is the only constraint. Alas, they do not know how much those people selling water (& nimbu-water) in the esplanade area earn. In 1983, I and a close friend (has his own CA firm now) chatted with one for quite some time and later calculated that he earns (as per his estimates which we thought was conservative) a net of 3000 in season and about 1800 in off-season.

Bengali people are basically greedy and mostly look for easy money, something that will come from lottery or bribe or by middleman commission etc. and will not entail hard work. They love money but do not know how to give it the respect it deserves. So, any small businessman is “lower-class” in social terms but when he becomes rich, he becomes “established”, he is higher-class. I am obviously not talking about the minuscule upper class educated class who are well-to-do and learn to think big from the childhood itself.

Strategic management says that you have to consider the resource view, which is not necessarily money alone. I will take the competitive advantages like contacts, political connections, personal determination and proper planning regarding the location and type of the business etc. for resources too, even if it is a paan shop (some of them have strategic locations and they mint money). In the BD market, I am watching a guy for the last 6/8 years. He initially started selling chicken in a small pushcart. He was threatened and pushed around by the Bazaar authorities, on cue from the established chicken vendors of the market. He changed places often and looked for strategic places just outside the market boundary. Then the market became too competitive, he switched to this and that and settled for fruits and is doing fine since then. He never gave up and his wife is also involved in the shop. He has not got a shop till now, but he is established, I should say. His major competitors were finally tired of going after him and gave up a small market-share as out of their reach, which was enough for this guy.

Strategic resource view is fine, but the interpretation should consider the person-specific competitive advantages. Have courage, it can be your biggest resource.

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Something about the state of Denmark – Tribute to another Gandhi

While trying to remain non-political, I watch all political events very closely as the environmental analysis is vital for survival strategy. Many people have asked me, an irritant actually, which party I vote for. I have a standard answer, “Opposition. Even if The Goat party was there, it would have been the same. To live in a democracy, you must always try to strengthen the opposition”. Freedom, I repeat, is the most important asset in a man’s life.

Any sane person in west Bengal will agree that for the health of the democracy and public interest, the Government should be changed at least once after a long long 32 years. Though I have a deep regard for the Chief Minister personally, in spite of his some arrogant remarks, I understand that he is not his party and definitely not the democracy which should be the supreme. With the arrogant anti-people Mafiosi style highly organized squeeze apparatus that is often run by the middle level leaders controlled at the top end, if the opposition was not fighting along against all odds, by this time we would have to get up in the morning and run to the queue in front of the “local committee” for permission to brush my teeth or to go to the loo.

It’s lovely that a single-point leadership-based and inconsistent Trinamool, which has some deep malady in it’s roots that they have started correcting of late, e.g. the lack of second line and presentable leaders and the lack of voice of all except Didi, whose guts and courage I revere, has own this round of election and has thrown off the Front in a disarray that will surely and eventually pave the way for a complete change. But Trinamool should as well understand that the votes were mostly negative rather than positive and if they try to run in the same demon alley, we will also fight that one day. Their political and unqualified backing of the hawkers and the “Kata tel”-run abusive hellish unlicensed autos are signs of the deeper maladies than is apparent from the politically correct lifestyle of our mercurial Didi. I am not sure that they have to vision or capability as of now to put the rail back in track in the most important areas of education, health, environment and industry.

In this “Oasis of peace”, where we the people have been caught between the devil and the deep sea, I have the deepest reverence for one person, our Governor Shri Gopal K Gandhi. In my experience of the last several years, he is the archetype of attitude that I have ever dreamt to inculcate in my students. Even if they can show a small fraction of it, my job will be considered well done. Gandhi, though the holder of a constitutional post and is as such bound by the protocols and codes of conducts, signifies all that is good, sacred and humane. He has defied protocol several times to open his mouth and protest, has shown remarkable statesmanship in breaking the political deadlocks, has shown the humane face of the state in gory and despicable situations which often forced the Government’s hand into more of restraint, and he has shown remarkable leadership and humility in all these uncertain times. He has avoided conflict and confrontation. He has remained silent against the despicable attacks on him when he has protested even more despicable events. He has waited for reasons to prevail.

He has a simple philosophy of life, it seems. He always looks for harmony, always look for situations that is a win win for everybody. It is the fire – the passion for human values that makes the difference in anything you actually do or want in life. My salute to him. I was never into hero-worshipping, but I am a Value and attitude coach and a strategist too. It’s a recurrent dream for me that one day, one day I will be able to meet the man, a combination of grace and elegance, sitting behind the constitutional wall, and shake hands.

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Planning MBA ?? Explore, explore and RUN from the only A+ Institutes

I am seeing an ad of an MBA Institute EIILM in Star Ananda and also in the Print media for quite some time with the claim that they are the only A+ Institute in Kolkata.

I am not sure who gave the rating and how many pegs he had before that, but whenever someone will make a similar claim, do not go away, RUN away – otherwise, meet your own waterloo in the Waterloo street.

The Institute is controlled by a Marwari trust, a purportedly non-profit one but that’s a good laugh if you know how the tax avoidance is done on the huge profit they make. The Institute is on the first floor with very narrow and serpentine passages, small rooms and chambers and lots of students. Teachers are low quality as they were cheapest available and some are fake, just lending their names (and qualifications) for some money so that these people can show that this and this people are attached with us. Infrastructure – I have told enough and about the claims of placements – my advice is not to believe a word.

They have, for good business reasons, opened up another Institute, Bangalore School of Business, in Gokul Boral Street, a dingy lane near Hind Cinema. The connection with Bangalore is a painful understanding, it is just to gain some respectability by the city name. This one is supposed to be the Kolkata campus of the same. I had the good fortune of taking a few classes in the same, and when I was already habituated with lecturing in a real high class Institute like ICFAI. The experience was shocking, but thankfully I lasted only for a couple of days only as they presumed I would agree to the Durwan’s pay for the classes (many other people supposedly accept that) and I simply refused to lower my rates and walked away, feeling utterly relieved.

The Campus was a total of 1500 sft, with 2 classrooms and the miniscule rooms for the center manager, Faculty room (but they use only one greenhorn faculty as full-time, rest are all people whoever will accept the Durwan’s pay) and the accounts and placement officer, beside a Computer room cum library (a few books and 10 PCs placed with 6 inch gaps with each other on two sides of the same table). There were 51 students, sitting cramped in the classroom, after which there was very little place for me to stand and lecture. The AC used to be off while the Faculty (Me!) was not in the class, almost leading to the “Andhakup-Hatya-II). The students, who seemed eager, were mostly B.Com, BA or B.Scs, and would be held sub-standard for top Institutes. Their fees are 3.2 Lacs per annum i.e. a total of Rs.80 Lacs per batch per year. The cost for teaching alone is 15 subjects (of which 12 are taken by guest faculty) in 2 terms are about 2 + 3 + 2*36*500 = 7.16 Lacs (includes salary of the Center Manager who is a non-teacher but is made to teach Computers, soft skills etc.). I calculated their total running cost will be to the tune of hardly Rs. 16 Lacs a year.

Now get my point of the Non-profit nature ? They are non-profit purely cheating organizations. No materials are there nor provided (just one textbook for each subject!!), teachers are sub-standard, infrastructure non-existent, placement forget it (they are for the advertisements), diploma and degrees of low standards and recognition levels. They spend on advertisements, for getting the new “Murgis” (as my friend described it) using all types of false claims and utter lies. I have nothing against them because they did never torture me in the Non-AC rooms, rest were fine with me. But you should be warned. Not only this one, nearly 90% of all the Institutes which advertise a lot of things are of the same type. For example, The Annex School of Management or something in Salt Lake, is another ghastly story. I wanted to provide you with one example, but many other small institutes have mushroomed who are almost of the same level.

Alas, they still get a lot of students, for the people like – or rather love to be cheated, after paying the fees they start looking for information and not before that. If you want to survive, learn to explore anything or anyone whom you are going to pay a lot pf money and even more importantly, two crucial years of your life and the huge opportunity cost of letting go the real good Institutes you could have tried for.

Education sector is booming right now, at least in India, some of which are as replacement of the foreign university needs (e.g. ISB, Hyderabad) and the spirally competition is pushing people to the brink that they will even prefer to go near-bankrupt to give some education to their children that they think everybody else’s son or daughter is getting. This hype has led to the springing up of many sub-standard fake organisations and the effect is big marketing scam by the social net. We are being trapped and devoured in this mega-scam, in the people’s minds.