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The bloody diamond

The bloody diamond
This is life

Welcome to the imperfect world

Welcome to the super-real world where survival comes first, much before the high alter preachings of excellence (for others only). So if you are the one who does not have to survive, or does not care - you have a choice not to remain here.

For others, please have a seat and take cover - here anything can happen anytime and you may just become a faceless co-lateral damage. Everything here is related to life and death, pains and agonies, treacheries and conspiracies, cons and deceit, treason and betrayals, despair and darkness - we just do not live in any perfect world.

BUT that is why the blog is here at all - let there be light. It aspires to show the way, to train myself and my friends in the defense against the dark arts. It is also related to hope and courage, renunciation and redemption, indomitable will and lust for life - the immortal battle with the dark side. Red flag fluttering in the gentle wind, all hands on deck, war cries in the air, daggers drawn, no quarters given nor asked, no hostages taken - we must fight till the last man standing

Rest assured, you are in good hands. These hands, with all the talents or the lack of them, with all the liveliness and the inner brooding, with the over-sized ego and the extra-ordinary humility, with all the goodness and the devilish designs - have been war veterans - they have fought for decades in the battle of survival.

Happy surviving




Love in blood

Love in blood

The inescapable war within

It is the curse of the human that we are constantly at wars. War with the Government, society, family, spouse, children, Boss, peer, friends, neighbours. Some of these are overt, some crude, some plain enmity but some are subtle, some barely palpable, some low key and guerilla types, some are cold as razors, some are dry like the funeral pyres.

Most of these cannot be own with force or when you try for winning - sometimes you have to lose to win them. Some are more like trials than wars, they never show the faces, never let you see their pimples, just shadows, the kafkaesque faceless executioners take over.

For all these, we need inner strength, we need strategies. Sometimes the objective is survival, sometimes it's plain escape from the random blades, sometimes the heady delight of beheading the enemy. Sometimes it is sheer joy to be alive, sometimes happiness comes over from a walkover or just a walkaway, without even a careless looking back. Often it is a mixed feeling - the agony, the ecstasy, the brutal orgasm or a complete disenchanted detachment - a shelter in the NOW. They sometimes need courage, need cunning finesse, sometimes ruthless lack of values of a son-of-the-bitch, sometimes daring flamboyant recklessness, maybe even stoic nonchalance. But the best of the best generals in the wars of life, always win without unnecessary bloodshed or even none of it at all.

But the most painful and fearful of all these wars are the ones with oneself. It could be a conflict between mind and heart or even the soul that holds our values dear. And this is one war that always hurts, always wounds, always bleeds one dry, always keeps one awake through the fearful night with the shadows of the beautiful lacey curtains blowing in the gentle wind and making shadows of our most intimate fears within. It is like a nation under seize, and alas, there is no escape. When you will kill yourself softly, no survival strategy ever works.



Tuesday, December 27, 2022

Survive from your so called Thinking

 World’s most expensive item is – you are right, it is a “Wrong decision”.

In an increasingly competitive world, it is quality of thinking that gives an edge—an idea that opens new doors, a technique that solves a problem, or an insight that simply helps make sense of it all.

You are what you think. Whatever you are doing, whatever you feel, whatever you want—all are determined by the quality of your thinking. If your thinking is unrealistic, your thinking will lead to many disappointments. If your thinking is overly pessimistic, it will deny you due recognition of the many things in which you should properly rejoice. if the quality of your life is not what you wish it to be, it is probably because it is tied to the way you think about your life. If you think about it positively, you will feel positive about it. If you think about it negatively, you will feel negative about it



For most people, most of their thinking is subconscious, that is, never explicitly put into words. The problem is that when you are not aware of your thinking you have no chance of "correcting" it. When thinking is subconscious, you are in no position to see any problems in it. And, if you don't see any problems in it, you won't be motivated to change it. When a full grown man has an average of 80000 (yes, you read it right, it’s 80 thousand) thoughts passing through their subconscious mind in a day, hardly 2/3 % of that we consciously think or can consciously control, review, weigh and moderate. The truth is that since few people realize the powerful role that thinking plays in their lives, few gain significant command of their thinking. Most people are in many ways "victims" of their own thinking, harmed rather than helped by it. Most people are their own worst enemy. Their thinking is a continual source of problems, preventing them from recognizing opportunities, keeping them from exerting energy where it will do the most good, poisoning relationships, and leading them down blind alleys.


 Improving the quality of your thinking will help you achieve your goals and ambitions, make better decisions, and understand where others are trying to influence your thinking. It will help you take charge of what you do in your professional and personal life, how you relate to others, and even what emotions you feel. It's time for you to discover the power and role of thinking in your life. You are capable of achieving more significant professional goals. You can become a better problem solver. You can use power more wisely. You can become less subject to manipulation. You can live a fuller, a more happy and secure life. The choice is yours.

When they look back, most people feel like if only they did take a few decisions differently, their lives could have been very different. Yes. Some of the world’s most expensive items are - “Wrong decisions”.


Our happiness and success depends on clear thinking. But too many of us are compromised by confusion, trying to do too much at once, and not knowing what to do next. Lack of thinking skills often lead to pain and sufferings in life that could have been easily avoided with a little application, of thinking. But thinking is a skill that provides the maximum firepower when it is consciously developed in a proper structured manner with right controls and handles on it’s force. Our arrogantly complacent attitude towards thinking is often misplaced, creating a wrong notion about our effective capability in this area. Many who consider themselves as good thinkers often use only one part of thinking, (usually analysis, judgement and identification) and leaves out the whole creative, generative and productive side of thinking.


To be really creative and innovative, we need to first take away all the barriers to free thinking. One’s mind must be completely open, liberal, flexible and dynamic to be truly exceptional. Creativity is an expression of the stream of thinking. Everybody has creativity but the chance to bloom, the expressions are not available in most cases as it is not really nurtured in the right way. But it’s always there, always waiting, always within every person, only one has to learn how to listen to the frequency and tune oneself to it.

Thinking is the most basic education required in every step of life, from personal thinking to academics to Business proposes to life situations like relationship handling or office politics, you just cannot escape it. At every step you have to think to make decisions, often critical and crucial ones, to survive, to excel, to be happy and successful. Just as we breath, we think. Intelligent people can think without having to learn to think. Then many others cannot think no matter what they do. Thinking is the most fundamental human skill. It also determines our happiness and our success in life, because we need it to make plans, take initiatives, solve problems, make decisions, open up opportunities and design our way forward. Without this ability we are like a cork floating on a stream with no control on our destiny.


 But thinking is also a skill that can be learnt, practiced and developed. It is fun and enjoyable too. Only you have to want to develop that skill. It is like learning how to ride a bicycle or drive a car. Intelligence is like the horsepower of a car, while thinking is like the skill of the car driver. Without learning to think properly, you really cannot use all the power or features of that car nor drive it properly. Many highly intelligent people are poor thinkers and get caught in the “intelligence trap”. Many less intelligent people often learn and develop a high degree of skill in thinking. Traditional education in school and college teach only one aspect of thinking, the rest are ignored – leading to a poor state of education where many highly qualified people are poor thinkers and operate at a fraction of their potential.

Now you know, Why !!