Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Shong-sar Meal planning - A healing strategy
My dear wife, though the undisputed owner of the shong-sar, always asks me what should be on the menu on the next day. This, historically, is a question that has embarrassed me and irritated me to no end because I am the type who simply wants to look the other way on these petty matters (!!??) and also the "keeping quiet" strategy is a ridiculous failure under the condition. It is also the knowledge that whatever I will say will be later turned down for some reasons and then she will have to give the orders her own way, that gives me the tweaks and twitches. In the one and half decades I have seen that anything, well almost, is not welcome to her for more than 2 days at a stretch and she fast becomes tired of that. Now, wherefrom should I import so much of variety (thank God, not spices) in life ? Then one fine late night, I sat on creating a table of the possible dishes and items which I now use as a ready reckoner and whenever asked the golden query, I start reading from that like that "Sardar poro" in the Tulsidasi tune. That has provided such consternation in the related minds (well, an instant maggi mix to irritate is lost ?) that lately nobody seem to be asking when I am ready to give the answer !! Oh God, there’s no justice !@#$%^&
Late cut
Real relationships may go dormant but they never go off. Someday somewhere they will eventually come back to haunt or enchant, depending on how you want to see it
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Champu’s marriage and the question of class
Today and yesterday (which was the reception in a top hotel, from the bride’s side), I went to attend Champu’s marriage. I saw him first, a boy of hardly 8/9 in 1989 and a smart boy of his age, only brother of one of my best friends Ananya (Ani), my classmate in engineering, a friend I revered thro’ the years for his maturity, poise and class. A great grandson of Surendranath Dasgupta, a close friend of Tagore and Principal of Sanskrit College, then the most respected chair of all academics, a grandson of Maitrayee Devi, one of the most respected writers in Bengali, an academy award winner, close friend of Indira Gandhi, celebrated disciple of Tagore and the director of a famous orphan home.
Ani did his engineering ( in fact his father didn’t wait for his joint entrance exam and got him admitted in Bangalore univ. before the result was out), gave CAT to get a chance in Times school of Marketing, got absorbed in Times Guarantee Finance, worked for 1.5 years, came back to Cal, gave GMAT and got into Cranfield for another MBA for 200 years, married school-time sweetheart Madhulika (a heavenly beauty of whose existence I was privy to and always used to tease him about), got placed in KPMG (Bahrin), worked for 4/5 years before changing to Andersen in London (he used to give more rent than I used to get my monthly stipend when I was in England), bought a house in Golder’s green (a stone’s throw from Hampstead heath) – a posh area in proper London, left job for an 1-year MIF in London Business School, topped in an all-Euro Business School competition in Strategy, joined the famed (& totally focused in strategic consulting) Marakon Consulting and worked for many years before becoming a Director and leaving to become a hot-shot in Stanchart Singapore. In Marakon, he used to see only one account for years, which is ABN Amro (2nd largest Euro-bank), and used to spend every Tuesday with the Chairman himself. BTW, he was the guy who told me about MBA and it’s uses after he got in Cranfield. My naivette seems touching but this is true. I tried it in the next year.
His brother Champu, an even smarter guy and who had the good fortune of his brother’s example, Studied Economics from St. Xavier’s and got an offer from all 5 IIMs. He chose IIM-A, got summer trained in Goldman Sachs which absorbed him for their London office. Worked for a few years and joined RBS. The important thing is that he always knew, from his childhood perhaps, that he is going to becomer an “MBA”.
Today he married Beatrice, a pretty sweet French girl he knew from his IIM-A days when She came on a student exchange program and has since been on London on design and also is in RBS.
I gave so much of introduction to say a very simple thing. It needs a tremendous focus and hard work to succeed. I love Ani and always felt proud rather than jealous when he went on winning one summit after another. I always felt him on his days when he worked on a 16-hour day for months and years on. Madhulika had to sacrifice a lot and had to bring up their two daughters almost single-handedly till they had an opinion of their own that forced Ani to change from Consulting (they said they want their dad’s time more than they need any more money). But the foundation of his success, I believe, is his parents. His mother is an epitome of poise and real class, if you can feel what I mean, which is Anything that is queenly, but his father, a corporate honcho, radiates a kind of quiet poise and vision that is quite rare among all the respective fathers of my friends. This I believe had prepared them for the maturity and the focus on their destiny in the corporate world. This is where they were quite different from myself (a refugee whose family focused more on survival than on the offensive) or my other friends who are more of the general middle-class upbringing. Here, the question is not of the brilliance or intelligence or anything else. It’s a question of LASER, which emits tremendous energy or rather force, upon a small area where it becomes a cutting edge. Ani never believed in hard and consistent work in his BE days, he was after the fun, but I have seen him going before the exams and I never had any doubt regarding his brilliance and the strength (that lets somebody rise on the occasion). This toughness is partly hereditary, but implemented thro’ personal brilliance.
Ani did his engineering ( in fact his father didn’t wait for his joint entrance exam and got him admitted in Bangalore univ. before the result was out), gave CAT to get a chance in Times school of Marketing, got absorbed in Times Guarantee Finance, worked for 1.5 years, came back to Cal, gave GMAT and got into Cranfield for another MBA for 200 years, married school-time sweetheart Madhulika (a heavenly beauty of whose existence I was privy to and always used to tease him about), got placed in KPMG (Bahrin), worked for 4/5 years before changing to Andersen in London (he used to give more rent than I used to get my monthly stipend when I was in England), bought a house in Golder’s green (a stone’s throw from Hampstead heath) – a posh area in proper London, left job for an 1-year MIF in London Business School, topped in an all-Euro Business School competition in Strategy, joined the famed (& totally focused in strategic consulting) Marakon Consulting and worked for many years before becoming a Director and leaving to become a hot-shot in Stanchart Singapore. In Marakon, he used to see only one account for years, which is ABN Amro (2nd largest Euro-bank), and used to spend every Tuesday with the Chairman himself. BTW, he was the guy who told me about MBA and it’s uses after he got in Cranfield. My naivette seems touching but this is true. I tried it in the next year.
His brother Champu, an even smarter guy and who had the good fortune of his brother’s example, Studied Economics from St. Xavier’s and got an offer from all 5 IIMs. He chose IIM-A, got summer trained in Goldman Sachs which absorbed him for their London office. Worked for a few years and joined RBS. The important thing is that he always knew, from his childhood perhaps, that he is going to becomer an “MBA”.
Today he married Beatrice, a pretty sweet French girl he knew from his IIM-A days when She came on a student exchange program and has since been on London on design and also is in RBS.
I gave so much of introduction to say a very simple thing. It needs a tremendous focus and hard work to succeed. I love Ani and always felt proud rather than jealous when he went on winning one summit after another. I always felt him on his days when he worked on a 16-hour day for months and years on. Madhulika had to sacrifice a lot and had to bring up their two daughters almost single-handedly till they had an opinion of their own that forced Ani to change from Consulting (they said they want their dad’s time more than they need any more money). But the foundation of his success, I believe, is his parents. His mother is an epitome of poise and real class, if you can feel what I mean, which is Anything that is queenly, but his father, a corporate honcho, radiates a kind of quiet poise and vision that is quite rare among all the respective fathers of my friends. This I believe had prepared them for the maturity and the focus on their destiny in the corporate world. This is where they were quite different from myself (a refugee whose family focused more on survival than on the offensive) or my other friends who are more of the general middle-class upbringing. Here, the question is not of the brilliance or intelligence or anything else. It’s a question of LASER, which emits tremendous energy or rather force, upon a small area where it becomes a cutting edge. Ani never believed in hard and consistent work in his BE days, he was after the fun, but I have seen him going before the exams and I never had any doubt regarding his brilliance and the strength (that lets somebody rise on the occasion). This toughness is partly hereditary, but implemented thro’ personal brilliance.
He always joked. “ when the going gets tough, the tough gets going”. Hat’s off. Gentlemen.
Saturday, December 27, 2008
Boxer Day thought
No connection between the two, but the name Boxer’s day invariably remind me of Boxing which invariably leads to the down memory lane of two stories that haunt me all the time, in fact, on many a cold dark and despairing nights, I have thought of “The Mexican” and found a new meaning of life which gave me the fuel to fight for another day when everything seemed lost and the war was almost over. I remember the days when I also used to see the “ten thousand rifles” in the faces of the onlookers and the whole world and this hallucination kept me going, trying to take the tired exhausted bloody myself to the ring again, to survive another bout of ruthless beatings. Did I have the same aloof face with only “the eyes” that burned” ?
The other one was “The four beef steaks”, also by Jack London, in fact this story was the first that I knew of him, beautifully narrated by Mr. Deuri, our suave, neat and classy class-teacher in Standard 10. The darned good storyteller had mesmerized us with the story of the master. The story talks about a champion boxer on the verge of his last bout (and end of the career if he loses) and desperately looking to win the match that can earn him some money – he needs to feed his family. To win he needed the four beef steaks as he always did – but this time his sunny days are over and so nobody will even lend him any more money. He fought bravely but at the time of the knockout punch, he lost his force as he remembered he did not have the required steaks. He lost, broke down in a sob and then, after so many years, suddenly realized why the champion he snatched the crown from also broke down in the same way. This story does not inspire me as the other one, but serves an even more important purpose. It pins me firmly to the ground – makes me even more humble when, sometimes, I shine a lot and wear that maroon and gold cloak
The other one was “The four beef steaks”, also by Jack London, in fact this story was the first that I knew of him, beautifully narrated by Mr. Deuri, our suave, neat and classy class-teacher in Standard 10. The darned good storyteller had mesmerized us with the story of the master. The story talks about a champion boxer on the verge of his last bout (and end of the career if he loses) and desperately looking to win the match that can earn him some money – he needs to feed his family. To win he needed the four beef steaks as he always did – but this time his sunny days are over and so nobody will even lend him any more money. He fought bravely but at the time of the knockout punch, he lost his force as he remembered he did not have the required steaks. He lost, broke down in a sob and then, after so many years, suddenly realized why the champion he snatched the crown from also broke down in the same way. This story does not inspire me as the other one, but serves an even more important purpose. It pins me firmly to the ground – makes me even more humble when, sometimes, I shine a lot and wear that maroon and gold cloak
Saturday, December 13, 2008
An apologetic me - why the blog
Life , I am watching in horror for so long, always reaches a turn when I feel an urge to be straight and invariably, the two roads diverge - in the yellow woods (there is always one when you are not looking). Seems I will never get some peace. So there long I stand (and figure out which one my mom-in-law would have banned), then I look down on the other for as long as as I have on my hand, then take the other - just as fair (that was an original strategy - maaaaaaaaaaan).
Taking a long hard look, at the twilight of the uneasy dreams, I now feel an urge to look back at the life itself. How do we decide ? What makes us so powerfully dumb (I mean, being deaf should have been enough !!?#$%) ?
So, here I am, on a long hard journey of self-retrospection. But in a blog - because I have felt this journey will as well reflect the arduous journey of many a fellow human being - including my friends, romans and country bumpkins (not including my collegues and the students and my wife separately). let's see where we reach. But at least we will enjoy the journey - it sure will be a hell of a ride - so grab your seatbelts - and No Smoking (he he - except myself)
Taking a long hard look, at the twilight of the uneasy dreams, I now feel an urge to look back at the life itself. How do we decide ? What makes us so powerfully dumb (I mean, being deaf should have been enough !!?#$%) ?
So, here I am, on a long hard journey of self-retrospection. But in a blog - because I have felt this journey will as well reflect the arduous journey of many a fellow human being - including my friends, romans and country bumpkins (not including my collegues and the students and my wife separately). let's see where we reach. But at least we will enjoy the journey - it sure will be a hell of a ride - so grab your seatbelts - and No Smoking (he he - except myself)
Late Cut - A purely original passing thought
Life is the everlasting game of the Sun and the shadow. But the part I love best are the 100 shades in between
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